My mother always told me that you can catch more flies with honey than you can with vinegar. She was masterful at communicating without raising her voice, bringing instruction and conviction in ways that motivated you. As I matured, she would say, "Son, come sit down next to mother. I want to share some things with you." Those things would be a combination of inspiration, chastisement, and direction. I would always leave her side with wisdom, knowledge, and understanding. Her words still guide my life and are used to motivate and inspire others.
Some people believe that giving others "a piece of their mind" is the best way to communicate truth. It's no wonder that medical science has shown that by the time a person dies they used less than one percent of their brain's total capacity. They gave the other 99 percent away communicating information, thoughts, and ideas in ways that are unproductive and uninspiring. Truth is fruitless if it does not love or liberate the soul. Most truth is spoken out of frustration, reduced to a list of edicts, rather than conversations that edify the spirit, or give people hope.
Words are seeds that bear fruit after they are planted in the mind. The mind receives words, filters them to the heart, which gives release to the body to manifest what has been said. People do not become what they want to become. People become who they are told to become. Educators do children a disservice telling them they can become whatever they want in life. This is only partially true because a lack of understanding regarding what you are to become will lead to a waste of time, talent, and treasure. It is a better conversation to tell children that they have talents and they to discover their loves, likes, and passions. They should use those talents to pursue their passions.
Words are powerful. Discipline of the tongue is an acquired taste. Take a look at your relationships and look at what your words have produced. Evaluate the verbal deposits you have placed into people and look at your returns. It may be time for you to remember that it is not what you say, but how you say it.
"Raise your words, not your voice. It is rain that grows flowers, not thunder." -Rumi
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